Stepping up

It is funny that no matter how far you are from the abuser and how much time has past, if they can get a dig in they will. I have children with my first abusive wife and she never really did do anything with her life. For the most part she is right were she was all those years ago.

Though it seems that every time something goes well for my children or myself she feels the need to step in and stir up the waters. What has changed is the amount of time she is allowed to do that and how I have chosen to react to it. The abuser feels a need to have control over their victim. If she can get me angry, hurt or scared she accomplishes all she wants and needs to.

If she cannot get to me I can be assured that she will go upset the kids and turn their lives upside down. Or she will go after the special person in my life. All in attempt to hurt me and to control my reactions to the events of the day. To get me wrapped up in her stuff and to get me to forget about the good that is happening in my life. Today I do not allow her to have her victories and I celebrate the good things that are happening in my life. The special people, the kids and my career. Today I choose not to give the abuser control over my life and my feelings.im-breaking-free.blogspot.com