Domestic Violence and the Web

In recent times a new venue has come about for committing acts of domestic violence and that new venue is the Internet. The laws that protect us from those that would abuse us are worthless when it comes to the Internet. I have seen many people being attacked relentlessly by their abusers and while all are in agreement that it is sick and that the intent is to be abusive, there is nothing that they can do about it.

This must bring great comfort to the abuser as they move forward each day destroying the live of the people they target. Like cowards hiding behind trees or in the shadows they hide behind the "Freedom of Speach" clause of the Constitution. A recent Supreme Court ruling has upheld the right of racist groups to have websites dedicated to their message of hate as a protected form of free speach.

I do not believe that the justices in their great wisdom nor our founding fathers ever intended to include acts of domestic violence as protected free speach. This is a fight that I am now taking up and only God knows where it will take me and what challenges that i will face because of it. It is something that I decided yesterday and since than I have already been contacted by someone that committed suicide because of this. They were relentlessly attack for a prolonged period of time and was isolated because of it.

No one could help her because the laws allowed it to happen. All they could do for her was to tell her, 'you don't have to look at it'. Finally in death she has the peace that she wanted in life and no one could give her. Her abuser won because what they were doing was completely legal and protected. Any action by her would have resulted in charges being brought against her and she would have lost.

Blogs and the many websites out there are meant to inform and provide entertainment. We should not allow the web to become a 'safe zone' for those that would abuse others. If we allow that to continue than the more they know the more we will become victims of their abuse. There will be no way to stop they and all the 'Orders for Protection', no contacts orders, harassment or restraining orders will all be meaningless. Those that are currently victims of abuse will remain victims as there will be no place to hide and they can be haunted and attacked no matter where in the world they go to hide. Someone will find the blog dedicated to destroying them and believe what is said and turn on the victim and isolate them.

Our laws as they are written give the abuser complete and total control over the lives of their victims. This cannot be allowed to continue and has to stop for the sake of all those that have been victims of domestic violence.

Divine Order

I firmly believe that everything happens when it should, in its own time and place. I know that I can get myself into a great deal of trouble when I try to force solutions and out comes. Life just does not work that way and it never did, I just did not know that at the time. I have been enjoying life in ways I had not before and that is something new for me.

There have been a lot of positive things going on in my life at the moment and at times it is just as overwhelming as when the bad things are going on. I simply keep in the back of my mind that I can only do one thing at a time and I am sure that I will get through it all just fine. Divine Order is described as events happening in God's time and not my time. Divine Order is events happening when the timing is right and as the say in comedies, timing is everything.

My Higher Power is able to see around corners and beyond the horizon to what will be and what will not be. Simply because i want something now does not mean that the timing is right for it to happen now or that it is the right thing for me. I have learned that by trusting God and Divine Order I often times get things that are far better than I had ever imagined possible because at the time my ability to imagine positive things was limited. I am sure that even today my ability to imagine the positive things coming into my life is limited by my own fears and doubts. It is getting better and I do feel loved every day, thank you God. Have a great day all and God Bless.

Choices

Each and every day we are given a choices that need to be made. I like to think that I make the best choices I can at the time. I may feel differently an hour later, a day later or a year later. The thing is that i made a choice and I have to live with the results of the choices I make. I do not regret the choices that I have made, I do regret the way others have chosen to react to choices I have made. It makes it very hard when someone reads into the choices their fears and beliefs when those things were never on your mind to start with. I have to always keep in mind that I am only responsible for my actions and not others reactions. Have a great day all and God bless.

Reflections

It has been almost four years now since I left the last truly abusive relationship I was in. And while and the impact that they things have been bumpy from time to time and things happened that I did not understand, my life is much better. I look back to those days now and wonder who that person was and how I could have allowed myself to get into those types of relationships. It has also been almost a year and a half since I last dated anyone more than once.

I know that even though I have grown and changed in many ways I am still marked by what had happened and I always will be. The scares will always be there and I will always have to deal with them and the impact they will have on my life. To say that it has made me gun shy about being in a relationship is an understatement and yet it is something that I am looking forward being able to do. I have spent the last four years working on myself and working on healing and I am making progress.

I can look out and see the sunshinning and enjoy the sounds of the birds singing again. Life seems to slowly becoming something that reflects normal (whatever that is). I am looking at things I used to do and starting to get back into them again. Some of them things I have not done in almost twenty years. So much is changing and it is great and I thought this moment would never come and yet here it is. Thank God. Thank you God for all that you have done for me and for all the blessings in my life. Have a great day all and God Bless.

Immigrants

Today as in so many other days I hear people talking about immigrants and how they are destroying this great country. The thing is that I want to sit down and cry when I hear them talk like that. My grandparents escaped Warsaw just as the Nazi's were invading Poland and barely made it out alive. My mother was the first one born in this country in my family and I was the first grandchild born in this country.

I have heard all this talk before and than it was aimed at us and our culture. There were all the Polish jokes and the insults that came with each day. People looking down on you becuase you were not yet one of them. It was as if you have to be in this country for so long before you could be considered part of it. My mother was a Wave in the Navy my father a SeaBee, my brother in the Air Force and served during the first Gulf War, flying missions in and out of Iraq. I served in the marine Corps and I believe that we are Americans either by birth or by choice.

I watch the immigrants that come today for the same reasons my family came before, for a chance at having a getter life for their kids and their grandkids. They worked hard and made a life for themselves and I see too many other people that want to ahve things given to them because they are owed something. Today I look at the economy and I see it going down the tubes very quickly. In most countries today a dollar is now worthh about 50 cents and we are told that that is a good thing.

Our money is worthless, our homes are worthless and be are being encouraged to fight between ourselves. During the civil rights movement we crossed color and ethnic lines to fight for civil rights for all. They devided us into fighting for our rights at the expense of others rights and in the end we have all suffered. Those that have had the power have raped this country of everything that once made it great, we stood united against anyone that would attack us. Now we stand divided fighting over the bread crumbs that are thrown our way, hoping to gain favor.

We have lost our sense of identity and self respect for not only our neighbors but for ourselves. How could we allow this to happen to us? It is something that has happened over the last 30 yrs and it will end only when we end. Immigrants, lets be honest with ourselves. If your are not an Native American you are either an immigrant or the descendent of an immigrant. They as all immigrants were willing to die for what they believed to be a great place to be. What are we willing to do to keep this a great place to be? Can we manage to get off the coutch and vote or volunteer in our community, hell can you take the time to get to know your neighbors?

Have a great day all and God Bless?

Immigrants

Today as in so many other days I hear people talking about immigrants and how they are destroying this great country. The thing is that I want to sit down and cry when I hear them talk like that. My grandparents escaped Warsaw just as the Nazi's were invading Poland and barely made it out alive. My mother was the first one born in this country in my family and I was the first grandchild born in this country.

I have heard all this talk before and than it was aimed at us and our culture. There were all the Polish jokes and the insults that came with each day. People looking down on you becuase you were not yet one of them. It was as if you have to be in this country for so long before you could be considered part of it. My mother was a Wave in the Navy my father a SeaBee, my brother in the Air Force and served during the first Gulf War, flying missions in and out of Iraq. I served in the marine Corps and I believe that we are Americans either by birth or by choice.

I watch the immigrants that come today for the same reasons my family came before, for a chance at having a getter life for their kids and their grandkids. They worked hard and made a life for themselves and I see too many other people that want to ahve things given to them because they are owed something. Today I look at the economy and I see it going down the tubes very quickly. In most countries today a dollar is now worthh about 50 cents and we are told that that is a good thing.

Our money is worthless, our homes are worthless and be are being encouraged to fight between ourselves. During the civil rights movement we crossed color and ethnic lines to fight for civil rights for all. They devided us into fighting for our rights at the expense of others rights and in the end we have all suffered. Those that have had the power have raped this country of everything that once made it great, we stood united against anyone that would attack us. Now we stand divided fighting over the bread crumbs that are thrown our way, hoping to gain favor.

We have lost our sense of identity and self respect for not only our neighbors but for ourselves. How could we allow this to happen to us? It is something that has happened over the last 30 yrs and it will end only when we end. Immigrants, lets be honest with ourselves. If your are not an Native American you are either an immigrant or the descendent of an immigrant. They as all immigrants were willing to die for what they believed to be a great place to be. What are we willing to do to keep this a great place to be? Can we manage to get off the coutch and vote or volunteer in our community, hell can you take the time to get to know your neighbors?

Have a great day all and God Bless?

Serenity

Even the word sounds calmiing and relaxing. It means to be at peace, with yourself, God and the world around us. It is something that is hard to achieve and yet is more valuable than diamonds or gold. To be able to relax and not feel stressed out or filled with anxiety is a hugh blessing in and of itself.

For me it is about giving up the idea that I have some control over the people, places or things that are going on in my life. The reality is that the only thing I have any control over is myself and that is limited to my actions and my reactions. How do I look at the world and my place in it? How do I react to the things that people do?

These little things are all so very important and add up quickly. It has been said that the devil is in the details and that is such a true statement. It is when I worry so much about the details that I forget about the big picture. If I do not stress out over every little detail it is amazing how much better things can go. In order to have serenity in my life I had to surrender and let go of the things that caused me to worry and feel stressed. Have a great day all and God Bless.

Another Day

I have been workign hard with school and another class is coming to a close today. I have been finding myself watching the stock market as of late and watching what has been going on and the way people are reacting to it. It has been a very strange thing as there seems to be a complete disconnect between what is going on and the way people are reacting to it.

It almost reminds me of the story about how to boil a frog, you turn the temp up slowly and he never notices he is in danger. Things have changed in many ways and no one seems to notice. The dollar is worth about 50 cents, people are loosing their homes and now having to choose between food and fuel. We seem to be being held hostage in our own country by the things we value most and I am wondering what it is we value most.

I had read stories of people giving up their homes to keep their credit cards and cars. If you have a family how can you possibly value your credit card over the home your family lives in. Have our values changed that much that we have become slaves to credit cards and value them more than those we love? I hope that that is not the case and that we are there for our families as they will need us more thsn ever in the coming months. If the market continues to slide and the dollar continues to slide we will be in for a very rough ride and it will tsake years to recover from it. God Bless and have a great day all, love yah

Missing in Action

I have been missing in action as of late and that is because I have been busy with action. Life has been good and I am feeling very blessed with the direction my life has been taking. Work and school ahve both been going well and I am feeling very good about both. It is hard to believe that I have been on the job for almost a year now and it seems like I just started. Guess that means I am enjoying what I do and the people I do it with.

It is amazing the blessings that pour into your life when you step aside and allow your Higher Power to do what he does best. When I allow my Higher Power to his job my life goes great and that is important every day. As I watch the world seemimgly spinning out of control, I find myself wondering just how bad does it have to get before people wake up and realize it. It is starting to look like the story of the frog in a pot of water, turn the temp up slowly and he sits there happy while being boiled to death. It make the things going on in my life seem all that much more wonderful and I have a lot of peace about that. Have a great day all and God Bless, love you all.