Kids will be kids

Every so often kids just go nuts and drive you absolutely crazy. When your at home you can send them to their rooms but when your in a store your suddenly helpless. You feel embarrassed by their actions and afraid as to what to do because everyone is watching. Do you let them scream and have their tantrum or do you discipline them in the store. It is a hard situation to be in and one that can find you feeling overwhelmed very quickly.

I am sure there are those that are professionally trained that have all kinds of wonderful ideas for how to deal with this type of situation. For me what works is to ignore them and not feed into what they are doing. It can be really hard to especially if you are tired or not feeling well. It does however work well. I get what I need and go home and then send them to their rooms. That gives them and myself time to cool off and than we can talk about it.

Domestic Abuse

This by definition is the use of violence, intimidation, threats or any action used to control another that you have an intimate relationship with. It is something that can be done to anyone at anytime by anyone that is close to you. The laws do not define it as only happening to a single group or only a select number of groups.

The cases that get the most attention are those that involve physical violence. This is because it is sexier and draws the most attention. More often than not abuse starts long before the violence ever begins in the form of mental and emotional abuse. There are to put downs and the subtle threats that happen. These are used to control your actions and behavior to insure that you do what they want you to do.

We often times will find ourselves excusing these behaviors or rationalizing them away as being something other than abuse. These are the actions that form the quicksand that holds us in and will not let us go. We make so many excuses for it and why it could cannot be abuse because we want to believe that we can make a difference. We want to believe that if we do this or that we will change them and what is happening and the physical violence will never happen if we just…

New Beginnings

Each day brings with it the promise of a new beginning. For each day is new and anything can happen and you can be assured that it will. We can enter each new day with no hope or a bunch of fears about what is going to happen to us next. We can also enter the day with thoughts about all that many positive things that can happen to us. It is important to remember that each day is the beginning of a new life and therefor we can define that new life any way we want to. We have the power to create our life and to enjoy that life to its fullest. We do not have to be held a prisoner in our own minds to the pain and suffering we have endured over the years.