Abuse - The Blame Game

The blame game is an old friend that comes up now and again. The abuser lays out the laundry list of everything that is your fault. You did this so now their life is in ruins and it is all, your fault. They forget that they are responsible for their own actions and also their lack of actions. It is just easier for them to blame you. We need to keep in mind this little tidbit as we recover from being abused.

We are only responsible for the things we did or did not do. We can never take responsibility for the actions of another because when we do we let them off the hook. They do not have to be responsible for their actions because they can count on you to do it for them. That is just simply wrong and it is something that is also very hard to do once you get started. Like anything else we do it will have to come one day at a time and with small steps. The idea is that we grow a little each and every day and that we continue to make progress. Recovery is a lifetime of work that can only be done one day at a time.