Domestic Abuse

This by definition is the use of violence, intimidation, threats or any action used to control another that you have an intimate relationship with. It is something that can be done to anyone at anytime by anyone that is close to you. The laws do not define it as only happening to a single group or only a select number of groups.

The cases that get the most attention are those that involve physical violence. This is because it is sexier and draws the most attention. More often than not abuse starts long before the violence ever begins in the form of mental and emotional abuse. There are to put downs and the subtle threats that happen. These are used to control your actions and behavior to insure that you do what they want you to do.

We often times will find ourselves excusing these behaviors or rationalizing them away as being something other than abuse. These are the actions that form the quicksand that holds us in and will not let us go. We make so many excuses for it and why it could cannot be abuse because we want to believe that we can make a difference. We want to believe that if we do this or that we will change them and what is happening and the physical violence will never happen if we just…