Relationships are never easy

When we have been abused for any length of time it can and often does make it very hard to trust another person again. Yet there will come a point in time when you will find someone that you feel good about being with. This is something that can be a mixed blessing in that you have the warm fizzies of being loved and yet there are the ghosts of the past. Those ghosts can be very hard to deal with because you never really know what will be a trigger a ghost come up from the past.

When issues do come up it is important to deal with them right away and not wait until the damage is already done. The new significant other does not know what you have been through and they may do something that will trigger one of your ghosts to come out a haunt you. Rememer they do not know what has triggered your reaction, if you share it with them what the issues are they can better deal with it. Maybe there will need to be changes and maybe it is something that cannot be changed. If you love them work with them and help them work with you.