Nothing Wrong

When I got out of the abusive relationships I had been in I began to hear all the things people had been saying. They could not understand why I was in the relationships and that I was wrong to stay in it for as long as I did. Some even said I was wrong to get out of it. It hurt greatly to hear them say the things they were, after all these were supposed to be my friends.

They did not know what being in an abusive relationship was like or why I stayed. They did not understand that I stayed because I thought I could change things. That I believed if I loved them enough they would change. They did understand how trapped I felt and the incredible amount of fear I felt about what would happen to the kids if I left. Then being a man there was also the fear that no one would believe me that I was being abused. After all everyone knows men don’t get abused and that was the one fear that became reality. Very few people outside the closest people to me believed me, those closest to me believed because they had seen it for themselves. I did nothing wrong and neither have you.