When Kids Give Up

The hardest thing to deal with during the recovery process is seeing your kids give up on themselves. You know that they have such great potential and they are unwilling to see it. So much of the time you want to just sit down and cry because they do not see themselves as deserving anything better then deserving a life of abuse. It does not matter if they are abusing themselves or others, the pain you feel is just as harsh.

There comes a point when you need to let go and allow them to figure it out for themselves. I have recently come to that point with my daughter. She does not see herself as being worthy of a good life and wants to self-destruct. I have tried for three years to get through to her and I finally had to let go. It was the hardest thing I have had to do but I know that if I did not I would not only loose her but myself as well.

In letting go I can heal and grow stronger. Than I will be able to be there for her when the time comes to pick up the pieces of her life and help her put it back together. Life will get better and I am sure she will be fine in time. Until then it hurts to watch her suffer like this.