One Day at a Time

Some days it is more like going one minute at a time is the only way you are going to make it through the day. That is ok because we need to do what we need to do to take care of ourselves. It does not matter what the rest of the world thinks about what we are doing or how we look. What matters the most is how we feel about what we are doing and the reasons why we are doing them.

After we have left the abusive relationship we have nothing to steer by simply because keeping the abuser happy was our soul purpose in life. Now that has changed and we need to understand that we alone are in charge of the direction our life. We chose what we are going to do and when we are going to do it and why we are going to do it.

We will need to take baby steps at first in this process and that is normal and healthy. By going one day at a time we build confidence in our ability to make good choices. Choices that affect not only our lives but also the lives of our children if we have them. There are so many things that will to be done when after you leave the abuser. Some will need to be done quickly to protect you and your children and others can happen over time.

Taking things one day at a time is the only way you will keep from feeling overwhelmed and it is also the hardest thing you will ever do. Taking things one day at a time will mean giving up the fear of what will happen if you don’t get it all done right now. It will mean finding people that you can trust to help you get things done that you may not be able to do for yourself just yet. One step at a time and one day at a time and you will have a much better life to enjoy.